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No.18449352 View ViewReplyOriginalReport
I might be using my new boyfriend for comfort and intimacy. I like him a lot but he's older and just has way too much baggage in his life that I can't handle. He treats me amazing and that's why I like him, but he already talks about marriage and kids after a month of dating. It freaks me out. I don't think I'll ever want to marry this guy.

Is it wrong to keep dating him casually? Will he get the hint if I just keep refusing to meet parents or talk about the future?

Are these things really helpful?

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How easy is too easy..?

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Well as it goes, I have not had sex in the last 2+ years. 26 now. Between my job and life, it just was something that just ended up happening. I was admittedly so busy that it wasn't something that really was able to phase me as I simply did not have the time or ability to dwell on it, let alone even try and pursue a relationship.

See, that's the thing. I've only ever had relationships. Nothing ever too crazy mind you. The Longest relationship I've ever had has been 9 months.

I've never really had any kind of meaningful relationships honestly. They have all been very parasitic, passive aggressive girls in hindsight.

So fast forward to now and this dry spell has caught up to me. I downloaded tinder and swiped away until I saw girl with a little puzzle in her bio.

I solved it . I mean it was simple. Basically it said she is super into anal.

I won't lie. I've always wanted to give it a shot but I've never been with a girl who would be into it.

I got to texting with her and honestly, all signs are pointing she wants to meet up right away.

All signs are pointing to that she is going to be the easiest girl I have ever had sex with.

Every girl I've ever been with... just getting her to be willing to have sex with me was this kind of grand puzzle that I had to navigate/negotiate through that looking back after having solved it I am still not sure how I really did it.

I'd be super ready to hook up with this girl though.. She is amazingly hot and I don't know, the little word puzzle she embedded in her little blurb there was amusing so she might even have a decent personality...


agh

what's your thoughts /adv/ ?

Should I go for it?
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Starting a new job

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Hi! I'm starting a night shift job for a privately owned assisted living facility called Aegis on the Alzheimer's section and was wondering if I can bring my handgun to work; I have a CPL. My new work place has lockers too.

Here's the law under RCW 9.41.300

(1) It is unlawful for any person to enter the following places when he or she knowingly possesses or knowingly has under his or her control a weapon:
...
(c) The restricted access areas of a public mental health facility certified by the department of social and health services for inpatient hospital care and state institutions for the care of the mentally ill, excluding those facilities solely for evaluation and treatment. Restricted access areas do not include common areas of egress and ingress open to the general public;

If not I'll just park on the street next to the entrance door if it's available. The people that trained me said they have bums going in the trash once in a while, and they just unlocked a few doors leading outside to an enclosed area because of state law.
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No.18448149 View ViewReplyOriginalReport
I fucked a prostitute while extremely drunk. How do I move on from this? Am I now a disgusting creep and bad person?
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No.18449140 View ViewReplyOriginalReport
>be me
> Asian, 24, bachelor in bio and certificate in biochemistry
> competitive amateur bodybuilder & powerlifter
> working on getting into pt school. But literally all pt tech/rehab aide positions I'm looking into don't call me back after interviews

Maybe I suck at interviewing. I'm polishing them as we speak. But honestly, every healthcare career field I'm trying to break into, it's almost impossible for me to get it.

Tried getting into pharmacy, tried becoming a pharmacy tech and couldn't get in

Tried to be anesthesiologist, worked on becoming anesthesiology tech, couldn't get in

Can you guys help me broaden my mind and see what other fields or type of work I can look into? I'm beginning to doubt whether or not I'm meant to be a doctor/work in healthcare. I'm pretty utilitarian in my thinking, I'm wondering if that's why employers are looking past me during job interviews.

Tl;dr need career options outside of having to study for some bullshit exam just to stay in school for 3+ more years to only be in debt and not utilizing said time to establishing proper career

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What the fuck is wrong with me

>gf of 2 years now
>legit a 9/10 to me both face and body
>was a virgin before meeting me
>has the same views on life as me, supports me in all my aspirations (even the autistic manchild ones)
>have the same common end goals
>does everything she can to make me feel loved and I do the same in return
>sex is amazing, I'm incredibly turned on by her
>want to marry this girl in the near future

Here's where things get fucked
>before I met my gf, I used to talk to this girl
>isn't even attractive, I was just desperate for a gf at the time
>she's just landwhale with oversized tits (pic very related, 90% what she looks like)
>she was also admittedly a virgin
>went on 1 date with her (just saw a movie together)
>never really got serious
>despite this things get very saucy over texts, start sharing lewds over snapchat
>start making vague plans on meeting up for sex
>before I could meet with fat girl, I meet my gf and stop talking to the fat girl
>she'd still message me despite telling her explicitly that I have to break off whatever I had with her
>would constantly beg me to break up with my gf
>before cutting off all contact, she says to contact her if I ever break up with my gf because she wants to give herself to me
>despite a perfect relationship with my dream girl, every night the gf isn't sleeping over, I'm lusting over that landwhale
>jerk off to pornstars that look like her/facebook pictures
>I immediately feel disgusted with myself after I finish jerking off
>repeat the same thing the next night if gf isn't sleeping over

I would never cheat on my gf, that's out of the question. Yet I'm addicted to fantasizing about fucking this unattractive fat girl that I barely have anything in common with (aside the fact she's desperately infatuated with me). I don't want to dump my gf either, she's legit the best thing that ever happened to me.

How do I stop being such a degenerate?
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Meh. Guy im seeing tried to go for anal this is the second time and both times ive given him a super firm no which is desu really out of character for me. He doesn't know this about me but i was analy (how do you spell that) raped 2 years ago and just have had a reallllly hard time getting over it. This kinda borderline traumatized me again. Thoughts?
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Depersonalization

Help me for fuck's sake edition

>can't remember details
>constantly at a loss for words
>feels like I'm in my own spacey bubble
>no enjoyment from anything anymore other than sleeping
>foggy brain to hell and back
>no energy to do anything
>easily irritated

I'm trying to major in computer science and I'm going into my senior year, but about 5 weeks ago I woke up and since then every waking moment has been like a dream to the point where I can't tell when I'm awake or asleep.

> inb4 smoke weed bro
I've fucking tried it and it doesn't do shit. the only comfort it gives me is knowing my brain isn't in a sober state of mind

ITT: Ask the opposite gender anything

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GUIDELINES:
Before you post a question, check the FAQ to see if it's already been answered.
Keep questions short for more answers.
If you're not going to like honest answers, don't ask your question.
And please no derailing arguments.

FAQ:
>Do girls/guys like <insert specific look>?
>What do girls/guys think about <an insecurity including, but not limited to: looks, physical traits, personality traits, virginity or otherwise lack of dating experience>
There is no one answer. Preferences differ, but complexes are always a turn-off.

>I'm shy and afraid of people/rejection. What do I do?
Get over it by practising and exposing yourself to it, little by little, step by step. There is no single magical moment that will instantly change you forever.

>I like someone. What do I do?
>How can I tell if someone likes me?
Ask them out.

>Where do I meet girls/guys?
Anywhere outside. Or online.

>Someone did something insignificant. What does it mean?
Nothing significant. You're overthinking it.

>XYZ happened. Interpret this for me please
We're not in their head, we don't know.

>This person did something that hurt my feelings. Why do guys/girls do this?
Because shit people are shit people. It's not a gendered thing.

>Someone has made it super clear they're no longer interested in me. Do I still have a chance?
No.

>Where do I go on a first (or subsequent) date?
Pick one or more of the following: coffee, lunch, dinner, drinks, ice cream, movies, zoo, aquarium, museum, art gallery, <activity in your city>.
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